Rant time – Dressing big boobs

2 Apr

Today I want to talk about something that has bothered me recently even more than previously and I can’t hold it in – after all I have a wonderful media for this kind of rants. I wanna talk about dressing big boobs and how difficult it is when they cross the G-barrier. I have always been aware that I can’t really try all the trends and all the fashionable shapes since I own a pair of D+ boobs. I have been told by my mom that “Sorry hun, those just will not fit into a size XS anymore” which is honest but brutal to hear when you are a rather slim 14-year-old. Not the thing you wanna hear when shopping for clothes, rather desperately I might add.

My boobs grew when I was about eleven and I started wearing my 32A on 5th grade (should have probably worn a 28C). I was the first one in my class and when I look back now it was pretty devastating to hear from other kids “You’re fat!” just because you start to develop a womanly figure while being so young. I sucked it up and handled it the way 11-year-olds do – shut my mouth and developed an eating disorder. Not a way to go, I assure you.

When my boobs got even bigger I couldn’t really do the box-y shirt thing like others my age. I still did and wanted to do it so badly that I ended up reminding a massive box walking on two sticks. Not an attractive look but I wanted to convince myself I was just like other girls, just a bit curvier. I also wore shirts that were pulled quite high by my boobs and again was teased by other kids cause they could see a tiny slice of my belly. I personally didn’t care that much but for others it was apparently a big deal.

There are definitely some complaints I’d like to make about dressing boobs in a world we live now: one of them is that you end up looking heavier than you actually are by wearing the kind of baggy sweaters and t-shirts fashion world just loves to death. I bought a lovely thick box-shaped sweater from Urban Outfitters a couple of months ago and I must say, as nice as it might look on someone else it’s not the most flattering look on me. I hate how I end up looking way heavier than I am and it is the kind of clothing that was one of the reasons for my anorexia back in the days. When dressing up in baggy shirts you will only see how big you look in them and feel a bit frumpy about your looks. But what can you do, fashion is fashion and you can’t really affect the clothing manufacturers. 

The common “sin” when wearing regular clothes on big boobs is the amount of attention your form-fitting “too sexy” clothing attracts. However this kind of sexy clothing is usually something that would look just cute or pretty on someone with a smaller bust, and you are making it look inappropriate just by the curves God gave you. Makes me super mad and even though I find my figure-hugging dresses lovely and flattering I have had comments about them looking way too sexy and uncomfortably tight. Well, let me tell you something my friend, they might look uncomfortable to you but do you know how uncomfortable it makes me that you are looking at it that way even though I just wanted to look NICE, for once. It seems like people feel like they are entitled to comment on someone’s clothing even with sporting a whole other bodytype which might be ten times less hard to dress “appropriately”. 

When this kind of talk about my clothes arises, especially while wearing something form-fitting yet otherwise totally modest, you can only imagine the looks of contempt when I have a full-on cleavage going on. I personally enjoy my cleavage and I think it looks good but there are definitely times when people actually stop and stare it like it’s some kind of exhibition object. It’s not but I don’t mind the stares unless you are going to say something inappropriate or judging. Cause judging is the worst you can do to someone who can’t choose their boobs and happen to have a cleavage when the dress is a bit too tight over her boobs or the cut of the neckline is low. My sister goes out wearing a tank top and my mom says nothing. I wear a tank top when seeing my mom and she literally tries to yank the neckline up just to notice it sliding down after a few seconds. This is my life and I require some respect and sympathy as well, even though my cleavage might be offending you.

So here’s a piece of advise for you who feel entitled for your comments about my or my busty friends’ clothing choices – try to dig your head out of your ass and put yourself in our shoes. It is hard enough to learn to like your curves and dress them nicely, we don’t need anyone to make it even harder. 

9 Responses to “Rant time – Dressing big boobs”

  1. Trelawny April 2, 2014 at 3:41 pm #

    Very good thoughts. 🙂

    I’ve recently firmly decided that casual knit dresses (i.e. thin and stretchy!) that are either completely fitted or fit through the bodice and then flair at the waist are my best friends as far as flattering my shape. I have several patterned dresses like this that fit both my bust and waist. I prefer the patterns to solids simply because they help to hide any undesired lines (solids can sometimes show everything). Most of the dresses I choose also have high enough necks (just below the collar bones) that I also don’t have to worry about cleavage. For day to day wear, it seems to work pretty well.

    • sophie April 2, 2014 at 4:43 pm #

      Thanks for the tip! I will definitely look into that 🙂

  2. charlene April 2, 2014 at 4:48 pm #

    i can relate to this so much ! I had and e chest before graduating high school and since ive had my son they have become a g-h. I constantly get ribbed by friends that my shirt is too low for me being a mum and im wearing the same shirt that my friends are ! I have found that when I do want to spruce myself up that wrap dresses have become my go to as they also hide my mummy tummy.

    • sophie April 4, 2014 at 10:39 pm #

      Oh that is just stupid. And who even defines what’s “mum appropriate”?!

  3. TheAbsurdCurvyNerd April 2, 2014 at 10:21 pm #

    I went shopping with my sister recently and think I said, “But WHY is it a rectangle?” every time I pulled something off the racks. It’ll be an adorable print and great idea, but it’s just… a box. Some busty women still love the look and rock it, but I just have no desire to cover up my waist. And about yanking up the shirt… I’m so glad that I’m not the only one whose mom does that (I mean, I’m not glad she does it, but it’s nice to know others understand the frustration :-).)

    • sophie April 4, 2014 at 10:41 pm #

      Yap, my mum’s favourite hobby is apparently to yank my shirt. She even does it verbally when I skype with her 😀

  4. TheGeekInPink92 April 3, 2014 at 12:10 pm #

    Reading this was pretty much like reading my life story. Its kind of nice to know someone else feels my pain at the same time as been horrified that someone else has to go through the stress of dressing a larger bust. And dont even get me started on shopping for bra’s!!! Overall this read has made my day as I can 100% empathise with you (Im a 34HH and still growing) thank you for posting this 😀

  5. Lily Twigg April 3, 2014 at 1:55 pm #

    Although in the bra blogging world I now feel quite small chested (at somewhere around a 30F/FF currently) I can totally relate. I was the first out of my group at school to get boobs and they seemed to rule my world fashion-wise. I now live in dresses and have heaps of belts to help define my waist.

    • sophie April 4, 2014 at 10:43 pm #

      Well I was a 30F about half a year ago and I felt the problem was already there. Now it’s just even more prominent…

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